The following is a presentation that I gave
twice to Houston Family Law Paralegals
What is ADR?
Alternative Dispute Resolution
(ADR) generally refers to the use of a neutral third party to facilitate
settlement of a dispute outside of a formal court of law. In Texas, a common use of ADR is as a
reference to settlement procedures described in and subject to the 1987 Texas
Alternative Dispute Resolution Procedures Act.
A copy of the Texas ADR Act is located at www.texadr.org.
The Texas Dispute Resolution
Procedures Act authorizes a court to refer a pending dispute to an ADR
procedure either on the motion of a party or on the Court’s own motion. Although a court can compel ADR, the results
of ADR are not binding upon the parties unless agreed to by the parties. Generally, the ADR proceedings are
confidential.
What is Mediation?
Mediation is one form of
Alternative Dispute Resolution. It is
widely used in family law cases in Texas. Mediation is a process where the
parties to a dispute meet with a neutral trained facilitator, called a
“mediator”, to try to resolve areas of conflict. The parties, their attorneys, if applicable,
and the mediator discuss the goals of each party, the reality of each party’s
position and explore possible solutions.
The mediator facilitates the
exchange of information and settlement alternatives between the parties. Mediation is characterized by a
business-like, cooperative climate which sets the stage for constructive
communication in the future.
Accordingly, mediation is used extensively in family disputes,
particularly those involving child custody issues.
The mediator establishes and
enforces procedures which are fair and even-handed and which provide all sides
a chance to be heard. Mediation also
provides an opportunity to express emotions or frustrations which may be
blocking negotiations and to address these underlying concerns in a controlled
environment. The mediator acts as an
agent of reality helping parties think about their claims and ensuring that all
parties participate in fashioning any settlement agreement.
Lawyers attend mediation sessions
and represent their clients. In most
mediations, it is anticipated that the parties themselves will have the
opportunity to discuss issues with the other parties and with the mediator. Because the parties actively participate,
there is usually a high degree of client satisfaction with any settlement
reached and with the mediation process itself.
The length of time needed for a
mediation depends on the complexity of the dispute, the commitment and
communication skills of the parties and the orientation or limitations of the
mediator. Many disputes can be resolved
in one mediation session of two to four hours; other cases may require multiple
sessions.
Mediation gives the parties more
control than a trial; certainty on the result; saves trial costs; helps save
the Court’s time; and is generally a friendlier process for the parties. Most clients prefer making their own
decisions rather than leaving their fate to a judge who does not know them or
their children. Another strong selling
point of mediation is that the parties do not need to “air their dirty laundry”
in a public forum.
Mediators provide a safe and
cooperative environment which encourages open and honest discussion. The mediator’s role is an impartial one,
identifying issues, exploring underlying interests, suggesting options and
balancing power. Mediators encourage the
parties to put the past behind them and to focus on the present and future.
Mediation is a confidential
process. The mediator cannot be called
as a witness at trial. If no settlement
is reached, the mediator will notify the court but will not include any
details. Most mediators destroy all
notes taken at the end of mediation. No
tape recorders are allowed at mediation.
No Service of Process (subpoenas, summons, citations, writs, etc.) is allowed at or near the mediation site.
The parties and their attorneys
must sign the mediator’s agreement before mediation begins. Additionally, most mediators require that the
parties agree before the mediation process begins that if an agreement is
reached that it is binding on the parties.
This avoids one party from changing his/her mind the next day. The magic language is: THIS AGREEMENT IS NOT SUBJECT TO
REVOKATION.
The mediator does not have to be
an attorney. However, it is usually
beneficial to use someone familiar with the Texas Family Code and the Judge
assigned to the case.
There are some free mediation
services available in the Houston area.
These services have guidelines that the couple must meet – such as no
domestic violence and income guidelines.
If the couple is not eligible then mediation costs range from $500 (half
day) to $3,000 (full day). Generally,
the parties split the cost of mediation.
If one spouse has all of the assets, then that party normally pays all
the costs of mediation.
If an agreement is reached at
mediation, the parties and the attorneys will sign the document prepared by the
mediator. Each party and attorney gets a
copy of this binding agreement. The
mediator then presents the binding agreement to the court for the file. Normally the petitioner’s attorney drafts the
documents for the Judge’s signature. If
there is a dispute in the document, the Judge will usually refer the issue back
to the mediator for clarification.
If no agreement is reached, the
case will proceed and the disputed issues will be heard by the judge or a jury,
if appropriate.
When To Tell Your Client
About Mediation?
I recommend discussing mediation
on a client’s first visit to your office.
Encourage them to go on the internet and research mediation. Explain to the client all the benefits of
mediation – especially the benefit of saving money and keeping their personal
business private. If your client refuses
mediation, gently inform the person that it is not an option in Texas. Be prepared to read the local family court
rules regarding mediation to your client.
When Is Mediation Not
Appropriate?
If there has been domestic violence
or if there is an outstanding protective order, most courts will waive
mediation. At your first meeting with
your client, ask questions to determine if any physical violence has occurred
or if there is a threat of violence.
Many people will initially deny that any violence has occurred. Thorough and gentle questioning is helpful at
this stage. If you suspect that violence
has occurred, bring this to the attention of the attorney.
If there are allegations of child
abuse, mediation is usually not appropriate.
If a mediator becomes aware that a child is being physically or mentally
abused it is a class C misdeamer not to report it to CPS or a local law
enforcement agency.
If a client is mentally unstable,
mediation is not a good idea. A person
must be mentally competent to knowledgeably enter into a binding legal
agreement.
What To Do Before Mediation?
Do not wait until the last minute to begin preparing for
mediation.
Approach mediation with the seriousness of a trial. It is an opportunity to learn more about your
opposition’s case. On the other hand, sometimes you don’t want to reveal “your
hand” entirely at mediation.
Prepare your client!
Most clients are terrified of mediation.
Encourage them to do research on the internet regarding mediation. Explain the process to them in detail. Be sure they are aware that the attorney will
be with them – they are not going into this alone! Reassure your client that this is a “safe”
environment. Develop a signal if your
client wants a break.
Explain definitions that will be used at mediation. Your client needs to understand the meaning
of terms such as a Texas Standard Possession Order – long distance access,
visitation for children under 3, separate property, community property,
parental rights and duties, etc.
Inform your client that the mediator sets the pace of the
mediation. The mediator is in
charge. Encourage your client to trust
the mediator and the process. If you
have used the mediator in the past successfully, let the client know. Your client will be interacting closely with
the mediator and your client needs to be prepared for this interaction. Your client must be clear if he/she is asked
“what do you want?” Sometimes
role-playing is helpful and reduces the client’s anxiety. Meet with the client prior to mediation – don’t
put it off until the day before mediation in case you discover that you need
additional information or the client needs more preparation.
Before mediation, your client
needs to provide you with a Financial Information Statement, 2-3 recent
paystubs, 2 years tax returns along with W-2’s, information on all assets and
debts. Determine fair market values for
assets such as real estate and vehicles – the internet is very helpful on
determining values. Get copies of recent
outstanding debts such as credit cards balances, vehicles and mortgages. Be
sure you have information on other assets, including cash value life insurance,
health insurance, retirement plans, expected tax refunds, claims, frequent
flyer miles, vacation timeshares, etc.
Make two (2) copies of everything – one for the mediator and one for the
opposing party.
Be sure that your client brings
everything (pictures, emails, paperwork, etc.) that they think they need to
mediation. The client can leave the
items in the car but they need to be available if needed.
If a child has special needs,
have documentation to back up your claims.
Report cards, teacher reports, doctor statements can be of assistance.
Ask your client to write down
their list of issues and goals and review these lists with them before
mediation. Ask your client to be
prepared to do the talking at mediation.
If your client wants custody, have them prepare a list of why they
should be the custodial parent and why the other parent should not. If your client’s goals are unrealistic,
mediation is more difficult. Prior to
mediation, meet with the client and review their lists and their expectations
of mediation. Try to work through any
“emotional issues” so that your client can focus on mediation.
Most mediators request a short statement about the issues
in the case before the parties arrive. They also like a copy of all active
pleadings in the case. If there has been
a social study or any other evaluation, be sure to include that document. I strongly encourage you to write a concise
summary regarding the parties, the children and all possible issues. It is a
good idea to include possible solutions to the issues. The mediator is a “clean
slate”. Use this opportunity to get your
client’s concerns and goals known before the mediator meets the parties. It is often helpful to let the mediator know
what offers have been made and rejected.
Make sure that all necessary parties are notified of
mediation and that everyone can attend.
It is a waste of time and money to set up a mediation if the
attorney/guardian ad litem is not available.
Confirm mediation dates via telephone, fax and mail, if
necessary. Keep proof of fax being
received by all parties.
Remember –
Thorough preparation is vital to effective mediation.
Know your case backwards and forwards.
Know all facts, issues, arguments, strengths and
weaknesses
Re-read all pleadings
Review all materials from the opposing attorney and any
all case notes
If possible, agree in advance in writing with opposing
counsel what issues are not in dispute.
Try to narrow the issues for mediation.
Have a neat binder for the attorney to use at mediation –
make it easy to find pleadings, discovery, social study, psychological reports,
the values of assets and liabilities, etc.
(If the case does not settle at mediation, you have begun your trial
notebook.)
What To Wear to Mediation
and Other Basic Questions
Encourage your client to wear comfortable clothing since
he/she will be there for several hours.
Encourage your client to bring a sweater or a fan if he/she gets hot or
cold easily.
The parties need to turn off their pagers and cell phones
and focus on the mediation. They can
bring reading material to help pass any “down” time. Be sure the client has cigarettes if they
smoke. Remind them to eat before they
arrive. If they take medication, remind
them to bring it with them.
Normally friends and/or family members are not allowed at
mediation unless all parties and the mediator agree. However, if one of the parties has
re-married, the new spouse is usually allowed into the mediation.
Children are not allowed at mediation unless the mediator
requests they attend. If children
attend, the mediator will usually ask that a third party be there to drive the
children home after the mediator meets with them. Make these arrangements in advance to avoid
any confusion.
Be sure your client has made babysitting and
transportation arrangements for the children.
Make sure your client has a map to the mediator’s
office. Encourage them to drive by the
office in advance. Remind them to arrive
on time. Be sure they can stay longer
than the scheduled time – often it takes awhile for the mediator to type the agreement
and get everyone to sign. Remind your
client not to leave until the mediator releases them.
Make certain that your client understands the importance
of attending mediation. If your client
does not attend mediation, the mediator will report their absence to the court.
If your client informs you that the other party will not
attend mediation, tell your client to show up anyway. The mediator will release your client within
an hour and notify the court that the other side did not appear at mediation.
Language Used at Mediation
Remind your client to avoid the following:
1. Making
insulting comments – “jerk” or “moron” or “deadbeat”
2. Making
impulsive comments – “I hate you!”
3. Making
“always” and “never” statements
4. Expecting
everyone to read their minds
5. Interrupting
when someone else is talking
6. Making
statements to push the other person’s button
7. Expecting
mediation to be over in one hour
8. Minimizing
the other person’s feelings – “what’s the big deal?”
9. Misrepresent
or omit relevant facts
10. Speaking
in a condescending or sarcastic tone
11. Demanding
the other party admit all of their wrong-doings
Encourage your client to do the following:
1. Use
“I” statements – rather than “you” statements
2. Ask
open ended questions – “what do you think?”
3. Ask
for a break if they feel overwhelmed
4. Ask
to speak to his/her attorney alone for a few minutes
5. Be
patient
6. Be
truthful
7. Think
creatively
8. Be
open to new ideas
9. Be
respectful of everyone present
10. Thank the
other party for being a good parent
11. Apologize
if they might have done anything to hurt the other party
(I settled a nasty case once when I had a father say “You
are a good mother and I’m sorry if I did anything to hurt you.”)
Ask your opposing counsel open-ended questions. Sometimes you can learn a lot about your
opposing counsel’s case. Attorneys like
to talk – let them!
Selecting A Mediator
If you are using free mediation services, your choice of a
mediator is limited. I prefer to use an
attorney with family law experience.
Always ask if an attorney with family law experience is available.
Eventually you will get to know the mediators that work
best with you. You get to know their
styles and can better prepare your client for mediation. Each mediator is unique. Choose a mediator based on the parties
personalities. If a client is difficult and
argumentative, then a mediator with a strong take-charge personality is
helpful. If the clients are religious,
try to locate a mediator that can work within that framework. You must know the personalities of all
parties involved in order to select the right mediator for your client.
Oops!
At the end of mediation, everyone is tired. Everyone, including the mediator, thinks that
every issue has been settled. The next
day someone notices that a major/minor point has been omitted from the binding
mediation agreement. Don’t panic! Usually a phone call to opposing counsel
and/or the mediator will straighten everything out.
If necessary, many mediators will offer a short second
mediation at a reduced rate to iron out any missed issues.
Divorce and Emotions
Divorce is the death of your client’s marriage. It is the death of your client’s hopes and
dreams. It is usually the most stressful
period of your client’s life. They are
upset and sometimes on an emotional roller coaster. Often your client feels abandoned and abused
(physically and/or emotionally). Often
your client feels alone, scared and vulnerable.
Often clients look to us as counselors and advisors. If you are not trained in counseling, do not
attempt to assist them. Encourage them to
seek professional assistance. There are
some sliding fee scale mental health providers in the Houston area. Develop a list of such individuals. The United Way is a good place to start. A client should not use lack of money as a
reason to avoid professional assistance.
Additionally, many times children are deeply affected by
their parents divorce, but the parents aren’t aware of their problems. If you suspect that the children need
assistance, encourage your client to seek professional assistance for the
family.
Winners and Losers
Many clients think of terms of being a winner or
loser. Your challenge is to get your
client to think beyond winning or losing.
I always tell clients that the biggest losers in a divorce are the
children. I try to get beyond this issue
early in the case.
Your Role
Remain optimistic, calm and creative. It is often difficult not to get emotionally
involved in a difficult family law case.
However, if you get “personally invested” you often lose objectivity and
cannot help your client. Your client is
looking to you for guidance. You need to
be able to remain objective.
This is your client’s life. It is your role to be their advocate.
Always be willing to go to trial. Don’t be afraid of trial. If opposing counsel knows that your firm is
willing to go to trial, you are in a stronger negotiation position. I settle most of my cases because I’m willing
to go to trial.
Don’t burn out! Too
many people take their client’s problems home at night. Develop rituals to relax when you get home –
exercise, garden, read, anything that relaxes you!
Develop a sense of humor and don’t take everything your
client says too seriously – there are always 2 sides to every story!
Develop client control.
If your client is a “loose cannon”, you are headed for disaster.
Do not burn bridges with any opposing counsel or
mediator. Always treat everyone you come
in contact with in a professional and courteous manner. You will probably have to deal with these
people in the future. Develop a
reputation for being efficient, calm and reliable.
What is Collaborative Law?
Collaborative Law is a new and alternative process where
both parties and their legal counsel commit themselves to resolving their
differences justly and equitably without resort, or threat of resort, to the
courts. The attorneys hired for Collaborative Law cannot represent the client
at trial. The attorneys must withdraw if the case is not settled and the
parties decide go to trial. Therefore,
the parties and their attorneys are motivated to reach a settlement without
court intervention. The parties and the
attorneys all sign a Collaborative Law Participation Agreement before beginning
the process.
It is becoming the preferred method of family law dispute
resolution in some jurisdictions because the process is more humane and
promotes the post-divorce spiritual, psychological and financial health of the
restructured family.
Collaborative Law relies on an atmosphere of honestly,
cooperation, integrity and professionalism geared toward the future well-being
of the family. The parties engage in a
series of meetings with their attorneys to discuss all issues and concerns,
coordinate necessary research, retain the services of any necessary experts and
discuss the future needs of the parties.
It is hoped that through honest and open communication the parties, with
the assistance of their attorneys, will reach a mutually beneficial
agreement.
Collaborative Law requires each party and each attorney to
take a reasoned position on all issues.
Where such positions differ, all participants use their best efforts to
create proposals that meet the fundamental needs of both parties, and, if
necessary, to compromise to reach a settlement of all issues.
It works best if the lawyers are trained in the
Collaborative Law process, even though such training is not required.
Collaborative Law is suitable for many types of law but
most often occurs in the domestic area.
There is also a team approach using a counseling team and financial
advisor to work with the family in a collaborative process. There is training available for all
Collaborative Law professionals – attorneys, counselors and financial advisors.
The State of Texas passed legislation regarding
Collaborative Law in 2001 (Family Code Section 6.603) and Texas was the first
state to pass such legislation.
The Houston Press had an interesting article on
Collaborative Law within the last year.
It presents the pros and cons of Collaborative Law.
Some General Principals and
Guidelines of Collaborative Law
Negotiation through cooperation rather than adversarial
strategies.
Practicing law through problem-solving negotiations in
which the parties are proactive, seek to understand and to be understood.
The parties are responsible for the action and the
outcome.
The parties develop common ground rather than focus on
differences.
The parties seek to understand the other person’s
interests and concerns which will lead to creative solutions to problems.
The parties seek to resolve issues and concerns with each
accepting and supporting the other person’s opinions.
The attorneys should…
Advise the clients of the law that applies to their
circumstances.
Be a model for their clients acting in an cooperative,
honest and dignified manner with mutual respect to everyone involved in this
process.
Guide their clients through the process using active
listening and respecting each parties opinions and concerns.
Always use neutral language in speaking and writing.
Bring stability and reason to emotionally charged
situations.
Work together to provide all discovery and disclosure so
that the parties can make informed decisions.
Avoid using adversarial techniques or tactics.
Bring in any other needed professionals (appraisers, financial
consultants, communication specialists) to assist the parties in reaching
agreement and to overcome any impasses.
File documents with the Court that are prepared with the
mutual agreement of all parties. For
example, some parties have filed a “Joint Original Petition for Divorce”.
Clients should…
Be honest.
Take responsibility for the outcome of the issues that are
not resolved.
Adhere to the principles and guidelines of the
collaborative approach.
Explore differences in perspective, interests and desired
outcomes rather than react to them.
Look for creative solutions to their problems.
Actively listen to their spouses’ concerns. Recognize the needs of the other spouse. Treat their spouse with respect and
patience.
Respect everyone involved in the Collaborative Law
process.
Be patient with the Collaborative Law process.
Suggested websites:
(International Academy of Collaborative Professionals)
(General mediation site)
(State Bar of Texas Alternative Dispute Resolution)
(General Collaborative law site)
(The Collaborative Law Institute of Texas)
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