Thursday, April 19, 2018

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Wednesday, April 18, 2018

POST DIVORCE CHECK LIST


POST DIVORCE CHECK LIST
  1. Obtain a Certified Copy of Your Divorce Decree.
    This can be obtained from your attorney or from the county clerk at the courthouse.
    Make a copy of it in color so you have two. One to use and one to keep at home for back up.

  2. Keep Your Marriage License.
    You may need it in the future for social security or other needs in the future.
  3. Complete the QDRO Process.
    This is important to do sooner rather than later!
  4. Complete the IRA or Other Investment Transfer Process.
    To receive any IRA or other non ERISA assets from your ex-spouse you must follow the investment firms’ rules. Call the firm for more information. This may require your ex- spouses signature.
  5. Change Your Beneficiaries.
    Do this on assets you owned during the marriage and still retain (your own life insurance policies, annuities, 401k/403b or IRA, etc.)
  6. Please Run a Credit Report on Yourself.
  7. Remove Your Ex-Spouses Name from Accounts
    Go through your accounts and be sure to adjust the registrations. Pay special attention to any accounts that will be reporting to credit bureaus and any financial accounts. Re-title any vehicles in your name alone.
  8. Establish Your Own Financial Identity
    If you haven’t already, get a credit card in your name as well as a checking and savings account. Start building your individual credit as soon as possible. Use the credit card but pay it off each month.
  9. Notify All Insurance Policies
    Be sure to review the beneficiaries on any policies and make sure that your ex-spouse’s name is removed. Visit with your agent to be sure that you have all the coverage you need and that you understand all details of your policies. If you’re going to be using COBRA health coverage through your ex-spouse’s employer, contact your insurer to find out to set it up
10. Get Organized
If you’ve never had one, create a filing system for all of your important financial documents as well as any statements that need to be retained for tax information.
11. Create a Budget
You’re embarking on a new life with a whole new set of finances. Sit down and create a budget. If this is too overwhelming, ask your financial advisor for help.
12. Write a New Will
Everything has changed. Be sure that your new wishes are clear so that there is no confusion.
13. Educate Yourself
You don't want to jump into major financial decisions before getting your bearings and making sure you fully understand the landscape. Many people find themselves in a situation where they are responsible for financial tasks that they never had to perform in their marriage. Take time to educate yourself and understand your financial options. Seek out a financial expert who can help you grasp a better understanding of your money matters.
14. Notify your Employer
Your employer may need to change company records, health or life insurance plans, and update accounts regarding retirement or 401-K programs. You also need to fill out a new W-4 with your new tax filing status.
15. Revoke any Powers of Attorney
If you have given your former spouse a power of attorney you should ensure that it is revoked in writing.

16. For Women, Change your Name with Social Security Administration.
Your social security number will not change. 
17. For Women, Change your Name with the DMV (Driver’s License).
You can also change the name on your Texas DMV vehicle title and change your voter registration name at the DMV. 
18. For Women, Change your Name on Your Passport.
This can typically be done via mail. 

Monday, April 9, 2018

Association for Conflict Resolution - Houston Chapter 2018 Lifetime Achievement Dinner


The Association for Conflict Resolution Houston Chapter
invites you to the

Lifetime Achievement Dinner
recognizing pioneers of the professional mediation community in Houston

ON SUNDAY, APRIL 29, 2018
W
INE RECEPTION AND NETWORKING: 5:00 PM

DINNER: 6:00 PM UNTIL 9:00 PM

JUNIOR LEAGUE OF HOUSTON
1811 BRIAR OAKS LANE HOUSTON, TX 77027

The Association for Conflict Resolution Houston Chapter, a 501(c)3, is the local branch of the worldwide international organization for mediators, arbitrators, negotiators, and facilitators. 

This evening will be a celebration of mediation, a silent auction, and an opportunity to win a grand door prize. 

Ticket Prices: Special Early Reservation Price until April 15, 2018: $100
Regular Reservation Price: $125

Sponsors welcome:
Table for 10 and Event Website Recognition: $1,000 General Supporter and Event Website Recognition: $500

Attire is cocktail dress

For reservations go to:
Lifetime Achievement Dinner Registration Link 


http://www.acrhouston.org

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People post personal info under "comments" and I cannot reply! 

This is very frustrating to me BUT this blog site forces me to (1) delete or (2) post.  

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Thursday, February 8, 2018

Am I married?

Austin Texas has a governmental agency that tracks life events such as marriages, divorces, births, and deaths.

It's the Bureau of Vital Statistics.

If you want to know if you are married, that is where I'd start.

CPS Attorneys

Here is a partial list of attorneys that say they do CPS cases.

I know most of them. I would call any of them for a consultation if I had a CPS case.

Remember - if CPS contacts you, IMMEDIATELY hire a CPS attorney to help and guide you on this difficult and tricky process.

I would want to talk to a CPS attorney BEFORE meeting with CPS.

Bobbie Young

Rocky LeAnn Pilgrim

Dennis Slate

George Clevenger

Julie Brock

Jetty Abraham

Eric McFerrin

Les Shireman

Beth Arnold Trostad

Barbara Rice Stadler

Hillary Unger

Allette Williams

Thao Tran

Gigi Oglesby

Susan Solis


Or check out www.avvo.com - best FREE website to locate attorneys in your area.

Unmarried pregnant women

If you are not married and you are pregnant, PLEASE call a family law attorney in your county to talk about your options.

It is so distressing when a woman that just gave birth calls and regrets the decisions she made at the hospital regarding the child's birth certificate.

I am especially upset when the new mom admits dad has drug, alcohol, mental illness or anger management issues. Or, his family members (normally paternal grandmother) is trying to control the entire situation.

If you sign up for any governmental assistance such as Medicaid, food stamps, WIC, etc. you need to read ALL THE FINE PRINT. You are allowing the State of Texas Attorney General's office to file a lawsuit against the bio. dad asking for reimbursement on behalf of Texas taxpayers!

You have no say in this matter once you access free or discounted services provided by the federal or state government.

It's like a snow ball rolling down hill, once it starts you just cannot stop it and it gets bigger and bigger.

If you don't want the Attorney General office involved, then don't access any free services.

I also usually suggest that mom not put bio dad's name on birth certificate or give the child the bio dad's last name. 

If dad wants to be involved, make him file a Paternity action and ask a judge to give him parental rights and for the child to have his last name.

If you do it, it's almost impossible to reverse. And, then it's going to cost you thousands of dollars in legal and court costs to try to get a judge to agree with you -- which many judges won't do so you wasted all your time and money.

Of course, only unhappy people call a lawyer. People that are getting along never call me so I recognize that I have a possibly unrealistic view of unmarried young people.

In summary, talk to a lawyer NOW and not later.

Can someone under 18 get married in Texas?



Can a teen-ager get married in Texas?


There is a new Texas law effective September, 2017 that anyone under the age of 18 cannot marry. 

The only exception is a judge can emancipate the teen-ager (between the ages of 16-18) and then the newly emancipated person can marry. 

No longer can parents just sign and agree to the marriage - that is now GONE. 

If you are unhappy, contact your Texas legislature since they changed the law effective September 2017. 

If enough people complain, then the legislature can re-visit this law when they meet again in 2019. 

Emancipation is not cheap or easy. It will definitely depend on the judge. Some judges won't do it. Of course, what makes it truly difficult is that the teen-ager needs to be financially self reliant. I don't know of any 16 year olds that support themselves 100%. 

But the law is new so perhaps judges will be more lenient if they know that the child intends to marry as soon as they are emancipated. 

Lots of parents and teens post regarding this question and I hope this explains it clearly and simply. 

It's the current law and we are struck with it until the legislature changes the law.

Wednesday, January 3, 2018

7 Tips to Transform Disagreements for 2018

Below is an article that originally appeared in an ACR publication written by Kate Stewart. 

Enjoy!


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Wishing you all the best!                  Kate Stewart, PhD
7 Tips to Transform Disagreements Into Opportunities in 2018
Most of us prefer to avoid thinking about conflict. But avoiding won’t make it go away.

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The Chinese symbol for conflict means danger + opportunity. Conflict can be an unpleasant threat…or it can provide unexpected benefits. It’s really up to you.

Since you will inevitably face disagreements in the workplace and in your personal relationships, here are some tips for making 2018 one of your best years yet.

1.  Manage your reaction. Conflict can bring out the worst in us. Anger, surprise, and hurt can trigger knee-jerk reactions we regret. They may feel good in the moment but rarely do emotional responses get us the best outcome.

Want better results? Take a pause. Count to 10…or 100, vent the steam with physical exertion (sports, hard work, punching a pillow), or meditate. Do what it takes to gain perspective and commit to making the situation work for you instead of controlling you.
 
2.   Examine your stories. Think you understand the situation? Think again. We create meaning based on our histories and mental templates. Those are different for every one of us. Your counterpart’s story about the event is different from yours…but very true to him or her. These conflicting stories (explanations) are the primary cause of conflict.

What is your story about the situation? What labels are you putting on it and on the participants? Is it possible there may be other explanations? Can you suspend your stories long enough to get more information? It may change your perspective…and improve your options.

3.  Ask questions. Asking questions often reveals information that challenges our assumptions. Answers we hear can expand our range of possible solutions. As a bonus, asking questions (not those dreadful leading questions, but questions asked in a genuine effort to learn and understand) softens others’ resistance, improving their ability to work with you to find a good solution.

Start with open-ended questions – those that produce narrative, not a yes or noanswer. Contrary to what you may think, asking questions doesn’t reduce your power or leverage. Instead, the information you gain increases your power.

4.   Listen strategically.  Your counterpart may be angry, may offer insults or complaints, or may strongly voice a position. Strategic listeners notice the emotion but don’t let it trigger their own emotional response. Instead, they focus on listening for new information, underlying interests, and opportunities to build bridges and weaken walls.  Repeat what you hear and ask if you have it right. Ask clarifying questions. Be curious.

5.  Move from positions to interests. Think of two boxers. As one attacks, the other responds with equal or greater force. The dance continues until one overpowers the other or they reach a draw.

Trying to win at the positional level is just like that. The more you argue your position, the more entrenched your counterpart becomes. Think you’re going to reach a mutually beneficial outcome? Not likely.

Instead, listen for the interests under their position. Simon Sinek’s popular 2014 TED Talk encourages us to start with Why, not What. Try asking Why to soften the entrenchment and learn the underlying motivation. “Help me understand why getting a raise is important to you.” “I hear you saying that you’re unhappy with the relationship as it is now. Please explain why you would like it to change.” Make sure your tone shows a genuine desire to understand. It often helps to disclose your own Why.

Don’t move to How until you fully understand Why. When you do, invite your counterpart to join you in brainstorming solutions that address their interests and yours, too. This technique reframes a lose-lose, positional argument into something much more useful - a joint problem-solving process.

6. Don’t settle for compromise. All our lives we’ve heard that compromise should be our goal. Frankly, compromise is an uninspired solution that rarely represents the best outcome for either side. Taking the time to explore underlying interests (see #5) ‘expands the pie’, allowing new, creative solutions to emerge that better meet the needs of everyone involved. Compromise is the best outcome only when (a) the pie has been expanded as much as possible, and (b) you are negotiating the division of a limited resource (e.g., money, time).

7.  Get help.  Sometimes we find ourselves unable to manage our emotions long enough to get the best outcome. Accept that. You’re human. Even the best negotiators and mediators sometimes get triggered. If you question your ability to manage conflict well and you care about the outcome, consider engaging a third-party neutral. It could be a person trusted by all participants. If such a person isn’t available, consider engaging a professional mediator.
Few of us enjoy disagreement, and none of us can avoid it forever. Those who accept conflict as inevitable and manageable can minimize its disruption and even enjoy benefits they never expected.

Wishing you a happy and prosperous 2018! 
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Training - Negotiation Skills,
    Collaboration Skills,
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Alternative Dispute Resolution
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Team Performance Improvement
Succession Planning
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 Kate Stewart, PhD, MBA
 Certified Mediator